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POC777
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United States
January 13 2004
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Quote: Originally posted by w0252230 on March 30 2009
Hi everyone, okay to start off, i was born and raised in a church home i just recently started reading my bible everyday and going to church every sunday. I got married last year and my husband wasn't saved until now when we joined a new church. My husband has done everything evil that you can just about think of. He lied to me, stole from me, and messed around on me and even ran up our cable bill that was in my name to $5,000 from watching porn. Now that he is saved, i know he will not change just like that but i think he has some kind of addiction to watching porn. He gets on my computer and looks up porn and lies to me about it. Don't get me wrong, he has changed a lot since he became saved but i still feel that this part of him has not changed. Should i keep confronting him about it (even though i know he is going to lie about it) or should i just leave it alone? I pray about it all the time and i know my husband will not change over night but is he hearing my prayer. I really want my husband to change. We have a 5-month old baby boy and my husband is a really great father and you don't find too many men like that. I just want my husband to stop with the lies and to stop watching all that porn. I know it has a lot to do with his background but can someone please give me some advice. I am trying my best to be a good wife. I wanted to divorce him so many times because of all the stuff he done to me but it was hard to leave. I know he wants to change (maybe that's why i'm still hanging in there). Please give me some advice.
You're not alone because every brother I know struggles with pornography. This is every man's battle! It is an addiction that ruins and destorys relationships starting with the LORD.
Satan somehow weasels his way in through the back door unnoticed bringing along with him "demons" when we are not spiritually awake then he begins his work.
That's why it is wise to block out all sexual content online and have accountability.
Find anything that is a**ociated with porn in your home and throw it away.
Also, it is good to check the History(bar above) which websites your husband been on.
Distractions are also effective like reading a Christian book for building a strong marriage together with your husband, family Bible study or simply going out together.
Something that will get his attention off porn and to stop feeding it and begin starving it to death!
The Bible teaches we are to confront a brother or sister in Christ in a spirit of gentleness(see Gal 6:1). That means before confronting your husband you must check our own heart if there's any habitual sin(Matthew 7:1-3). We are to judge righteously not condemning(John 7:24)!
Jesus told us in Matthew 18, to confront a brother or sister in the church. No, not inside a "local church" because Jesus said "when two or three are gathered in My Name I am in the midst of them", that is the church. We are the Church! However, there are times when those caught in sin will retaliate, if so, bring a sister or brother along as a second witness. If they don't listen tell the pastor and if they don't listen to him treat them as an unbeliever.
If your husband has been trying very hard to leave pornography pray for and with him but don't beat him over the head with the Bible.
Show him God's love and at the same time have discernment!
He is addicted to this spiritual poison and the only way is by God's grace and for him stop this is for to separate from it...and I mean very far.
The LORD will not put us in something we can't handle but will always provide a way out for us(1 Cor 10:13).
Hope that helps!
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If God is higher than angels and angels higher than Man is then God is higher than both angels and Man - Son of the Most High
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Topic: Need help
